why "aspiring" is not good enough

Tuesday, April 10, 2018


On a relentless journey of self-discovery, expanding knowledge, exploring potentials, yadda-yadda-yadda, I'm currently noticing how I (and perhaps many other people) tend to say this one certain word a lot.

That word is "aspiring."

i need a minute (or two)

Friday, February 23, 2018


As I opened a new file and thought of what words to start this post with, my mind whispered, "Try not to sound so overly sad." And to that voice I replied, "Screw you. I can allow myself to be sad if I want to."

staying on top of stress

Thursday, February 22, 2018


Between following your passions, staying in education, making money, and handling family life and friends, it's easy for life's responsibilities to feel like they are piling up way too high. Stress is an all-too-common factor in our lives and if we're not careful, it can bring real detrimental effects on our health, our personal relationships, and our future. There's no one-true-approach to staying on top of stress, but the techniques that help you is an essential part of coping with life.


Be the help
Sometimes, getting involved in someone else's trouble can actually help you feel a little better about your own situation. When you can't find the solution to your problems, a little social charity goes a long way to making you feel competent, like you have some agency. Doing something altruistic and seeing the positive impact you have in another's life can be important for building self-esteem when stress seems to knock it right down, too.

Get organized
Often, stress comes from many real issues of life that pile on top of us. Responsibilities and money are two of the most common. Financial stress is very real, but it's not insurmountable. Access to quick cash can help you solve the immediate stress, but budgeting and planning financial security (like emergency funds) is essential for the long-term.

Time-management skills will also become more and more important as you focus more on career and education. Setting a schedule allows you a little more control over the different responsibilities you face, which can make it feel like they're not quite always there pressing down on you.

Know you need quiet time
Some time alone to reflect or even distance yourself from your thoughts can be just as effective as distracting yourself by helping others out. Meditating, yoga, performing breathing exercises, or even writing down your thoughts. They all give you a chance to step outside of your own thoughts, and get some distance or perspective on your troubles. Sometimes, they'll help you spot solutions you hadn't considered before. Most of the time, they help those troubles feel like they're not quite as urgent and omnipresent.

Be aware you can't do it all
Sometimes, the need to "solve" your stress can be a source of stress in itself. Stoicism has a very helpful lesson that could change your viewpoint on a few of the troubles in your life. To put it simply, you are in control of two things: your thoughts and your actions. If it's not within your control, it's not something worth occupying your thoughts with.

Take a closer look at what's stressing you out. Is it something you could change with your own actions? Is it something you can change your frame of thought around? If the answer to both is "no", then it might not be worth stressing over.

Everyone reacts to stress differently, and deals with stress from different sources, so it should only make sense that we each have an individualized approach to staying on top of it as well. Do any of the methods above help you or have you discovered your own path to a life that's a little more peaceful?

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This post was contributed and pre-written by Grace Harrison.

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