why "aspiring" is not good enough

Tuesday, April 10, 2018

On a relentless journey of self-discovery, expanding knowledge, exploring potentials, yadda-yadda-yadda, I'm currently noticing how I (and perhaps many other people) tend to say this one certain word a lot.

That word is "aspiring."

i need a minute (or two)

Friday, February 23, 2018

As I opened a new file and thought of what words to start this post with, my mind whispered, "Try not to sound so overly sad." And to that voice I replied, "Screw you. I can allow myself to be sad if I want to."

staying on top of stress

Thursday, February 22, 2018

Between following your passions, staying in education, making money, and handling family life and friends, it's easy for life's responsibilities to feel like they are piling up way too high. Stress is an all-too-common factor in our lives and if we're not careful, it can bring real detrimental effects on our health, our personal relationships, and our future. There's no one-true-approach to staying on top of stress, but the techniques that help you is an essential part of coping with life.

Be the help
Sometimes, getting involved in someone else's trouble can actually help you feel a little better about your own situation. When you can't find the solution to your problems, a little social charity goes a long way to making you feel competent, like you have some agency. Doing something altruistic and seeing the positive impact you have in another's life can be important for building self-esteem when stress seems to knock it right down, too.

Get organized
Often, stress comes from many real issues of life that pile on top of us. Responsibilities and money are two of the most common. Financial stress is very real, but it's not insurmountable. Access to quick cash can help you solve the immediate stress, but budgeting and planning financial security (like emergency funds) is essential for the long-term.

Time-management skills will also become more and more important as you focus more on career and education. Setting a schedule allows you a little more control over the different responsibilities you face, which can make it feel like they're not quite always there pressing down on you.

Know you need quiet time
Some time alone to reflect or even distance yourself from your thoughts can be just as effective as distracting yourself by helping others out. Meditating, yoga, performing breathing exercises, or even writing down your thoughts. They all give you a chance to step outside of your own thoughts, and get some distance or perspective on your troubles. Sometimes, they'll help you spot solutions you hadn't considered before. Most of the time, they help those troubles feel like they're not quite as urgent and omnipresent.

Be aware you can't do it all
Sometimes, the need to "solve" your stress can be a source of stress in itself. Stoicism has a very helpful lesson that could change your viewpoint on a few of the troubles in your life. To put it simply, you are in control of two things: your thoughts and your actions. If it's not within your control, it's not something worth occupying your thoughts with.

Take a closer look at what's stressing you out. Is it something you could change with your own actions? Is it something you can change your frame of thought around? If the answer to both is "no", then it might not be worth stressing over.

Everyone reacts to stress differently, and deals with stress from different sources, so it should only make sense that we each have an individualized approach to staying on top of it as well. Do any of the methods above help you or have you discovered your own path to a life that's a little more peaceful?


This post was contributed and pre-written by Grace Harrison.

Did this help you navigate around your stress? How do you cope? Leave a comment, or share the article. Hope everyone has a great week. See you!

melbourne | white night 2018

Tuesday, February 20, 2018

The sun sets, the roads close, and the city stirs in excitement. Anticipation builds up in the atmosphere as the sky settles into dusk. Police guards stand at every rail, rows of food trucks prepare their best delicacies, neon lights and LEDs start to decorate the busy streets. White Night; an evening of wonder and amaze, successfully captivating the people of Melbourne each year.

it's time you tried something new in your life

Saturday, February 10, 2018

If you stick to the same old routine everyday, life can start to get a little bit dull. Whether you live an easy life or a hard one, keeping everything the same on a daily basis is what’s going to defeat you a the end of it. No matter how resilient you think you are, it’s mental pressure that builds up when you’re consistently working. There’s a lot of factors that go into how your mind feels every day, and it’s important to make sure you’re doing everything you can for the sake of your mental health.

why i wear this necklace

Sunday, February 4, 2018

Anyone who sees me regularly would know that I wear very little to no jewelry on a daily basis. Aside from a watch and two elastic hairbands around my wrists, my ears aren't pierced (neither is any part of my face) and I own countless bracelets and rings I hardly ever wear anymore. 

But one thing you'll most definitely see, though, is a small, silver cross necklace. One I've kept around my neck since I turned 17.

twelve things january taught me

Wednesday, January 31, 2018

January is known as the month of Resolutions and Dreams and New Beginnings, but if I were to label it myself, Unpredictability would be a better word.

A weekend trip, a packed suitcase, and a rude awakening, my January has indeed been many, many things. I think it's been many things for a lot of people. Regardless of what you do or where you are, being pulled away from the Happy Holidays into the gruesome forest of reality is no seamless transition.

life story | a journey of two thousand miles

Friday, January 26, 2018

Security checks, lounge areas, and suitcases wheeled across the floor. Different heads turning in search of direction. Coffee machines, fluorescent lights, and the buzzing chatter of strangers. Through the scene, a girl walks through the terminal, two boarding passes tucked neatly in a passport. Over her shoulders an overstuffed backpack, and tied around her waist is a dark blue hooded jacket.

Her feet pace. Her heart beats. A journey both fun, and too bittersweet. Only holding on to a tiny hope within, that up there where she's going, a new life will begin.

reasons to cut your hair short

Tuesday, January 16, 2018

Hello! Yes, it is I, your typical blogger, emerging from the underworld.

It has been 7 days since my last blog post and I just spent an entire week of not writing nor preparing any content whatsoever. I know, I know; grant me no excuse, I am a disgrace.

Anyway, earlier today, I went for a hair appointment because there's only 6 days until the big move and my God, who wants to spend $50 on a haircut in a foreign country? Not me. For several days, I contemplated on whether or not I should cut my hair short. After a lot of thinking and Pinterest-browsing, I decided on this lob cut, similar to one I got back in 2016. I was pleased with the results, then proceeded to go home, put some decent makeup on, and take some pictures on a windy Tuesday. Because I have a camera. And it allows me to do that. 

Changing your hair on a January makes it look like you're buying into the cliché "new year, new me" thing, I get it. But there are reasons why I can be such a short-hair-enthusiast; at any time of year, really.

celebrate little achievements

Tuesday, January 9, 2018

I've been thinking a lot about the idea of "goals" and success, and how the whole January-1st-on-a-Monday situation has propelled us into this strange, whimsical start-of-the-year optimism. 

And the race to fulfill all the New Year's Resolutions begins.

Maybe you met with some people over the holidays and hey, someone just got engaged! Or a quick scroll through Instagram tells you about that promotion your friend just received. Not to mention the overly concerned relatives who are always a little too curious about your love life; as if we'd all die without a relationship status.

Be it comparison, peer/parental pressure, or by any other reason, everyone's been at that point in their lives where they feel like they haven't really achieved anything, have they? It's only natural, and I get it. Some 20-year-olds are still in uni, trying their best to make ends meet. But some 20-year-olds are married. Some other 20-year-olds own Google. (Probably.)

A lot can be said about "goals" and success, but the pattern is that it's always rather distant. Never quite within our reach yet. Consequently, we find ourselves stuck, thinking, I should've made it by now.

why i like rainy days

Wednesday, January 3, 2018

pluviophile (n.)
a lover of rain; someone who finds joy and peace of mind during rainy days

Twenty days away from my departure and each day, I grow increasingly reminiscent. Over everything. The objects in my house, the laughter of my family, the silence of my bedroom, the sounds coming from my kitchen. Maybe once you listen to something repeatedly each day, even the noisy clatter of pots and pans and kitchen utensils start to sound like a harmony in formation.

The 2nd day of January, my Christmas decorations are still hanging, left untouched. The tree no longer lights up and the tinsel looks pathetically outdated. With the right light, they still glimmer, but displaying their red-and-green holiday cheer when the holidays are almost over, their festiveness now  only makes them look lame.

It's the first Tuesday of the year. I'm sitting in my living room, minutes until noon, when the sky had decided to unleash its melancholy. Initially I was reading a book; a story about someone who suffered amnesia. Yet in all the "joy and peace of mind" the rain seemingly brought, I couldn't concentrate. I looked up, and around, and outside, and then in. I realized I didn't want to read. I want to write.

unspoken words, and soulmates | q&a

Monday, January 1, 2018

Happy new year!

A couple of days ago, I'd asked my followers to send me submissions for an upcoming blog post. See, as the year comes to a close, I find myself hunting for new content and material. So I urged them to send me anything they want; a story, a question, or any thought unspoken or unexpressed before 2017 ends. It was sort of a humble invitation to get them to speak up, or perhaps help them by coming up with some answers. Considering we are now in 2018 already, below are some of the results.

Disclaimer: This compilation was made in no particular order, only grouped into two; the questions, and confessions. The short lines at the center separate the submissions by the different individuals who sent them (so multiple questions in one segment means they came from one person.) Some of these have been translated and edited for clarity, but all of these will remain anonymous. 

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