how to feel better

Friday, August 2, 2019


Go outside. Breathe fresh air.

Look at the skies with your head tilted upwards. You'll feel small. In fact, you'll feel tiny. Let it sink in. Let it sink in.

Forgive yourself for not feeling okay.


Keep a journal. Write into it.

Make note of your thoughts. Form a sentence. Form a paragraph. Write as little or as much as you need. Write of feelings you think are unexplainable.

Cry. Cry a good cry. Not the cry that sends one tear rolling down your cheek. No, honey—sob. Unleash those tears. Release every pain. Tell yourself it's okay.

(For best quality tissues, I highly recommend Kleenex.)

Make your bed.

Run. At sunrise. Where the warm morning light is peeking through the cold, misty air.

Take a hot shower, maybe longer than necessary.

Make a cup of tea – and I mean, focus on the cup of tea. Put everything aside and just make a cup of tea. Brew the water, pour it into your favourite mug, let it sit and wait for it to cool. Savour every sip. No distractions while you wait. Immerse yourself in the time it takes. Sit quietly, gaze out your window, feel the warmth at your fingertips, think of nothing else but your cup of tea.

Speaking of which – say nothing. You are not obliged to react when you don't want to. You do not have to engage with what/who hurts you. Sometimes silence is a friend, and an emotional brick wall that may come in handy.

Or, in fact, say everything. Say everything if you need to. Put it in an audio recording, make it an audible journal entry. Maybe call a friend, call two friends, whatever you need to get something off your chest.

Puppy videos. Instant smiles. This is guaranteed.

Go out and socialise, if it helps take your mind off things.

Or do the opposite. Spend some time alone.

Take a walk. Or stay indoors.

Leave your phone on silent. Occupy the world on your own.

Give. Give willingly. Spread kindness recklessly. Buy a homeless person a sandwich. Give a street performer an extra $5. Give from what you have, give from what you don't. Practice generosity and you might be surprised of how much you have in you.

Take a nap. Sleep things off. Give the brain a rest if it's running on fumes.

Pet something soft, or furry – something that makes you go ooh! at first touch. I'd say dogs, blankets, or fluffy cushions are ideal, but I've found that touching everything in Uniqlo also does the trick.

Move. Like, a lot. Lift some weights. Do yoga for a good stretch. Or take any gym class, by yourself. Get your body to move. Much of our problems come when we're being still.

Play some music. Dance to it.

Cook something. Or bake apple pie. Sounds impossible? Try.

Watch a stand-up comedy show on YouTube.

Or spoken word poetry. Man, those things – they get to you.

Write words of consolation that make you feel hopeful. Write them on Post-It notes and stick them in annoying places.

Don't go into social media – just, don't. It rarely makes you feel better.

Tidy something up. Marie Kondo wasn't kidding.

Do voluntary work.

Take deep breaths.

And gosh, don't "force" yourself to be positive if pain still occupies your space. Don't beat yourself up for not having a good day, and don't self-criticise when you're feeling low.

Make a gratitude list. Find three things you are grateful for, despite everything.

Make the same list the next day. This time, aim for five.

Turn to a creative hobby. Something that helps your self-expression.

And finally, at the end of all this, you'll hate my last advice, but smile. Smile and laugh to yourself. Reframe your outlook and make it something funny.

Because at the moment, when it feels monumental, when everything feels like shackles and you've hit one of your lowest days, think of all the times you've felt like this before. Then think of all the times you still had good days afterwards.

So laugh. Shrug it off. A bad day is a day. A negative feeling is a feeling. And even the worst catastrophes pass.

Even the worst,

pass.

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To feeling better. Slowly.

















4 comments

  1. Reading through them, I automatically/sub-consciously start imagining each line.
    I cracked a smile.
    I feel better already.

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  2. wow! i am definitely adding this to my bookmarks and will go back to this as often as i can! thanks a lot for this! <3

    sincerely, riz

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  3. Reading this makes me smile. Thank you! x

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